Dating a guy with commitment issues comes with its own set of challenges. It's all fine and dandy until you fall madly in love with him and he tells you that he's just not ready to take things to the next level or he doesn't want to even consider the possibility of a serious relationship. It literally can feel like a punch in the stomach when the man you're crazy about tells you that he doesn't see or feel any need to get serious about you. So what exactly is a woman in this situation supposed to do? Is it best to wait patiently until he finally sees the light and wants to commit to you? Or is it better to push him for something more? Some women even suggest the idea of trying to make him jealous. Do any of these approaches actually work or is there something more constructive that you can be doing? If you love your guy and you want him to make a commitment to you that can happen if you understand the necessary steps to get there.
Once you realize that you're dating a guy with commitment issues you need to start doing certain things as well as stop doing certain things. How you interact with him will greatly impact whether or not he'll ever change his mind regarding a commitment with you. For instance, if you continually talk to him about how much you wish he would commit, he'll feel cornered and pressured. When a man starts to feel this in a relationship, he loses interest fast. If he genuinely feels unsure about a commitment with you and you continually press him for one, he'll eventually pull away and break things off. By the same token, if you just sit patiently by waiting for him to magically change his mind one day you'll be the one who will get so fed up with his inability to commit that you'll end things. In either case it's a lose-lose situation.
In many cases when a man has commitment issues they stem from his fear of losing his own freedom. Men are so used to being with women that want to change them. It's not uncommon for a man to imagine that if he gets super serious with a woman that she'll suddenly decide it's time to start changing his life around. He won't have the same ability to spend as much time with his friends as he wants, his career won't be his number one priority and he'll have to give up his favorite pastimes. If your guy believes these things, he won't commit to you anytime soon. That's why you need to take steps now to show him that you have no interest in monopolizing his life. Encourage him to live his own life while you do the same. Show him that just because you two are a couple it doesn't mean he can't be his own person. If you gently lead a man into commitment instead of pushing him into one, he'll be much more open to the idea.