If your boyfriend fears commitment and you're ready to take things to the next level, you're stuck in an agonizing situation. Many women find themselves struggling with this and eventually they reach a crossroads. Should they leave the man they love in the hope they'll find someone willing to embrace a more serious relationship or are they better off staying with the man they adore in a long term dating relationship? There's actually a third choice. If there was a way for you to get your boyfriend to crave a commitment with you, wouldn't that be what you wanted? It's possible to make this happen and it's not nearly as difficult as you may think.
The first step you absolutely must take if your boyfriend fears commitment is to stop telling him that you want one. What often happens when the man in the relationship is fearful of taking the next step is that it becomes even less appealing if the woman he is with constantly pushes for it. You have to stop talking about anything more serious than what you two share right now.
You should also be focusing more on yourself than him if your boyfriend fears commitment. It's easy to invest too much of yourself in a relationship. Once we do this we start resenting our partner if he's not giving up everything we believe we deserve. You need to find fulfillment within yourself so start chasing your own dreams. It's okay to be a bit selfish. If there's a career change you've been contemplating, now is the perfect time to pursue that. Perhaps you've always wanted to jet away to some tropical location. Plan that getaway with a friend. The goal is to show him that you have a very happy and fulfilling life that doesn't include him. If he starts to feel not as important to you, he's going to begin to worry about losing you. You want that to happen.